Pornography is an industry of adult content to be perused by adults. I was about 15 the first time I saw porn. I was shocked at how turned on I was by it. Maybe you found this to be true for yourself as well. Why is that?
Out of those of us who have had sex, I think we can all agree that porn is almost nothing like reality except for in the rare and exciting circumstances where it is. Usually, these circumstances are just that; circumstances that mirror porn logic which typically does not exist in the real world. The porn itself though? From the noises to the techniques, I can confidently say that if you're watching porn for education purposes: STOP.
The following is a list of pros for the porn industry relative to the individual viewer:
It saves time if you're hoping for a quick solo go at it, porn will certainly speed up the process of getting to the end goal; hence, time saver.
You will discover if you have any kinks and what they are!
That's it!
If you're interested in learning more about your kinks (fears) go online and watch some porn. Actually, you don't even have to watch it. Just go out there and see what they have to offer. Look at some titles and some stills of the videos and figure out your preferences. Porn is good for this. They really cover a whole variety of sex categories to explore and it's weird albeit exciting to see what tickles your fancy.
Unless you are a sex worker, taking cues from porn is most likely a bad idea; especially, if you're looking for a long-term partner. I put sex work as an exception to this because in the sex work world, fetishes and kinks abound. It's the whole reason people are willing to pay for sex! They're embarrassed to explore their kinks with someone they actually know.
And I could also argue that if you want the ultimate life partner who knows all your kinks and caters to them, then fine, be porny with your potential forever, but in most cases, we just don't do this. And it makes sense!
Men are trying their damndest not to be predatory with their sex drive and women have had it drilled into their brains from a young age that they must be a "lady" (thank you archaic "virginity" narrative) if they want a spouse. Who out of that pool of people is going to risk losing the respect of their partner (kinks come with a level of shame) for some kink satisfaction. Kinks are weird! I really wish we were more chill about them as a collective.
The only reason people even have these porny kinks is because of porn. Had these worlds not been explored through this industry, we might not have the imagination for it, honestly. So, we can thank the porn industry for figuring out a "fun" way to work through our deepest darkest fears. And yes, I'm using fears and kinks interchangeably because they often equate in the sex universe.
Now that we've established that there are pros to the porn industry and benefits to exploring kinks this way, I'd now like to argue how it's just not so great on the whole.
Here is my list of cons of the porn industry specific to the feminine and masculine viewer:
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Unrealistic dick sizes.
Of course, there are obviously some individuals who possess monster cocks as seen on screen, but that's just not the case for the majority. The average dick size is said to be somewhere around 5-6 inches. I'm not sure how this data was collected; if individual dicks were measured at doctor's visits or if a survey was collected online. For ethical purposes, I'm assuming it was a survey. So, we have to assume some exaggeration in the data collection. Maybe they already accounted for this skew and adjusted accordingly? Maybe not. I'd say; officially, the average dick size is 5 inches. Which is just not being represented in porn.
And, why is this an issue you may ask? It's fucking scaring women away from sex! No one wants an anaconda shoved up their magic maker. We're always being told to keep it tight! And I've had male friends with larger than average penises and they will report that women will absolutely say no to them based solely on dick length. This may be why most viewers are typically men. Women are just not interested in getting ripped in half. Unless we're really, really, really (I mean ungodly amounts of) horny.
For men, I think it's obvious. It's discouraging for the majority and it's unrealistic for those who do possess such penises. You're going to encounter a lot more rejection than the chodey dude who sits across from you on the bus on your way to work. trust me.
Porn logic
Save for the times where we are really, really, really horny, I'll lay claim to the fact that women typically prefer a good storyline. I know I find myself - literally - developing new kinks just because the only narrative being offered is a kink perspective. Boring! And such a turn-off when you're someone who appreciates a solid screenwright. The logic in porn? It's so fucking bad that I'm left laughing. It's funny to laugh during sex sometimes.....but not really.
This logic in porn paves the way for even more day-to-day harassment out there. Imagine being a late-night pizza delivery woman and having to stop off at locations where men are maybe drunk? maybe alone and watching porn? I'm imagining a typical friday night for a bachelor and I, a pizza delivery woman, shows up at your door after a case of beer and some of your favorite tab-saved porn sessions. What is the likelihood this bachelor makes a suggestive remark? 10/10 readers! There is a 100% chance this pizza delivery woman gets harassed on some level because porn logic dictates that everyone, everywhere, at all times, is horny as fuck and hoping for sex and their bachelor brain is flooded with this logic making them act irrationally.
For men, I mean, more rejection coming your way if you're going to fall for porn logic working in reality.
The noises
Nobody sounds like that. And, I've heard from multiple people that if a woman were to actually make the noises that porn stars typically make, they would run far away. It's...annoying? That sound they're making is annoying in succession. You do not want to be annoying when you're trying to be sexy. Don't ever, for any reason, mimic the noises made in porn films.
Men don't even really make sounds in porn. It sucks! A dude moan is super sexy, but it's underrepresented and I think that's super misogynistic.
The butt stuff
Jesus! No one is doing that much butt stuff. Rarely, rarely, do people like a finger in the back let alone a whole fucking HUGE porn penis. No fucking way. I am a literal sex professional and I don't even offer that. The only people getting in my back door are my partners - IF I like them enough. And only once just to give them the experience. Clients can fuck right off with that. There are some sex professionals out there who offer anal at HIGH PRICES but it's rare. It happens in reality, of course. Just not at this rate. It's the rate of butt stuff I have a problem with not the representation of butt stuff; it's fun!
Face-fucking
I vomit every time. Every damn time. I can deepthroat perfectly fine, mind you. It's not a matter of capability or storage space. It's the rapidity that is necessary for men to enjoy face-fucking someone. In reality? Your dick is getting puked on. Again, there are people out there who have seemingly no gag reflex. For the majority? We have one! Face-fucking? A fantasy that porn likes to push. Not happening!
Lack of eating pussy
I mean...how is she so wet like that from the get-go? Unless you're steamy mchottie who I've been fantasizing about for weeks? I'm not dripping like that just because you dropped your pants. You want to have a slippery, fun time? Get down to business. Again, how fucking misogynistic.
Pussy preference people, where are you learning to do this? It must frustrate the hell out of you that there are no good videos representing this fine and delicate art. Or do you all just not do it? That's...oh my god. People with vaginas deserve better.
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I could keep riddling off reasons why porn is unrealistic, but you get the idea. Those are the main points and they should scare you into never opening porn again. Unless, of course, you're trying to discover some kinks.
Oh, do I think porn is cheating? Hm, no. Never. If you're not allowing your spouse to watch porn, they're most likely trying to book with me in its place out of outlet desperation. Pick your poison, people!
Porn is fun for discovery and maybe a good laugh, but to take it seriously would be extremely damaging to not only your psyche, but your sex life in general. Don't tank your sex life throwing a fit because you expected that girl to swallow or that she actually wanted to risk getting your semen in her eye with a facial. It's just not happening.
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